My name is Sonia Barker and I understand how you feel. I help parents who are hurting for their child, to gain an understanding of their struggles so that they can live confident and satisfied lives.
I am married and at first, my husband and I struggled to conceive but after several years and IVF we were able to have a child.
To my surprise, I was pregnant with our second child less than a year later. Our child would be diagnosed with Down syndrome in the womb.
I've met so many people who have struggled with receiving a diagnosis for their child and all the emotions that overwhelm us in those lonely dark nights. That was me, I felt the same way. I couldn't talk about it for months. I did not want to accept that my child would be born with a disability or what it meant.
What would his future be like? How would others treat him? Would he find love? Would he ever know if others where being unkind and how would he defend himself? My heart broke over and over again.
I eventually gave myself some time to mourn the child I would not have and figure out how I would help the one I was having.
I started reading books, attending conference after conference, taking courses and speaking to other parents ahead of me on this journey.
I had a lot of anxiety and pain to figure out how to help him thrive in a world that would not accept him easily.
What I found in my journey has been the ultimate personal development life lesson.
Wow! I am in disbelief all that my children have taught me and all that I still have to learn. I have been able to grow as a parent but more importantly as a person in ways that I couldn't have conceived before being a parent.
There was a time that if a child had a diagnosis the doctor would suggest to institutionalize them. They would not be of any good use to society and they would not be able to learn.
I cried when I learned of this practice. How insensitive and ignorant were those 'professionals' to all those parents. Unfortunately, they just didn't know any better.
Today, we do know better and have been able to bust those myths of the past. We are able not only to teach and help our children but also to have a compassion for the human spirit to thrive at their own pace.
We are learning to take care of ourselves and how we process the world in a way to support ourselves, our children and families.
Our future and that of our children is brighter than it ever has been.
To be able to find confidence and satisfied lives there are three areas to master. The first one is to clarify direction and action, second is personal skill development, and third is your mindset.
I would like to warn you of some pitfalls. Typically sometimes due to stress and not knowing what to do parents may go on autopilot mode that will surface as worry and frustration. This causes the family to potentially suffer due to the lack of awareness.
The first thing I would say to do to get on the right path is to get curious on the thoughts you are having, write them down or type them up on your phone and see how they make you feel about yourself, your family, your child, and others when you have those challenging moments. Just stop when you are in that non-supportive space, notice and make a note. This will be the start of how shifts can happen and allow you to be happier.
I love working with parents like you because I remember the struggles I have been through and how making some small changes have made a world of difference.
If you're interested to work with me sign up for a complimentary session. You'll get a chance to talk to me and I'll get a chance to see how I can help you. This is how you'll know if we're a good fit. I'll talk to you a little bit about my program and then we go from there.